Gay wedding shower

Now that more same-sex couples can legally tie the knot, questions are existence raised about the "right" way to plan and celebrate the nuptials of two brides or two grooms. While we trust there's no right or wrong way, per sé, we want to propose our readers at least a little bit of guidance.

Over the weekend, our reader Dana Kacedon Alley asked us about the protocol for same-sex wedding showers, writing: "If it's a gay couple, perform you still invite the ladies? Do you include separate showers? We ran into this problem with my best friend's wedding when she and her partner got engaged and we ended up not doing a shower. Now my brother and his partner are getting married and I just don't know what to execute. Any advice on what other couples have done?"

We turned to LGBT wedding planning expert and HuffPost blogger Bernadette Coveney Smith to help us navigate these murky waters. Spot what she had to say below:

Wedding showers and bachelor and bachelorette parties are heterosexual traditions but they’re also a really good time -- and another excuse for a party.

Same-sex couples who are more settled tend not to hold these parties, while couples that are starting out (and of typical ma

How To Plan a Gay Wedding Shower

Wedding showers are a celebration of the festivities to come. It&#;s a time to be showered in gifts, affectionate and appreciation. Planning one can be a tiresome effort when you don’t know where to start! Not to worry, we have taken the occasion to create a how-to guide on planning the perfect same-sex wedding shower!

What Is a Same-Sex WeddingShower?

Same-sex wedding showers in general are an event where people come and observe the couples upcoming nuptials. It’s an event that is typically organized by the wedding party and not the couple themselves (this isn’t always the case) where guests approach and bestow gifts to the couple, share their joy and excitement for the wedding. It&#;s generally just a great day for family & friends to blend and mingle before the big time. The wedding shower is usually where the invited guests are expected to bring wedding gifts for the couple to unlock. There will still be wedding gifts from people who attend the ceremony and reception but the wedding shower is where family and friends can watch the couple unseal the gifts they’ve bought and revel in all the excitement together.

Who Attends The Shower?

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Fifty Shades of Gay (Bridal Shower)

My friend Gay is getting married this month, so last Saturday we threw her a surprise bridal shower which we called Fifty Shades of Gay, which is obviously derived from Fifty Shades of Grey. The event was held at Geanette&#;s flat.

I bought some bridal shower gear (the cosmopolitan-and-stiletto garland and bride-to-be rhinestone glasses) from The Party Stuff at Changi Urban area Point and everything else for $2 each at Daiso. Yes, including those pink fluffy thingies on the ground &#; all of them together for only 2 bucks!

We got some ideas from Pinterest about naming the food after Fifty Shades of Grey terms, and this is what we came up with:

Orgasm Meatballs + Obedient Chicken

Tie Me Up Pasta + We Aim to Pleazza

Virgin Rice + Red Punch of Pain

Vanilla Sex Cupcakes + Hard Limits Mixed Nuts

Of course those cupcakes are the cream of the crop, so let&#;s take a stare at all of them, shall we?

Elma had them custom made, so if you&#;re interested, shoot me an email and I can get the details from her.

Gay and Leo arrived after we were done prepping everything. I had fed them a lie to get them to come, so they were surprised

Over the last few years I’ve seen and attended my fair share of bridal showers (including my own), for both linear and same-sex couples.

In , some of my closest friends and family threw us a attractive shower before our wedding. It was tasteful, pleasurable, and best of all it captured us as a couple without incorporating all of the cheesiness and gender normative staples you normally see at bridal showers.

Still, I observe lots of people unsure of what to perform when they’re asked to throw a shower for a same sex couple. Questions like “who’s the bride?” “will they both wear a dress?” and “should the shower be for both of them?” are tossed around every time. As an try to gently guide you party throwers in an inclusive direction, here are a few tips on how to plan a same sex bridal shower.

Make the party gender inclusive.

Traditional wedding planning revolves heavily around gender stereotypes, and it’s important that the surrounding festivities cater to the couple’s authentic selves. If they’re both the more feminine type, they might want a ladies only shower. But if they shy away from being put into the girly girl box, construct an open space by inviting whoever they need to share the da

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