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Gay Sex: Help a Bottom Learn to Top
January 11, 2010 2:36 PM Subscribe
I'm a lovely passive/submissive guy and in all my relationships I've been the bottom with occasional forays into topping at the request of partners. I find myself dating a lovely gentleman who is also a bottom, almost exclusively so. My sexual position liking isn't dogmatic, and I'm happy to give him what he wants by topping. The only obstacle is: I kind of suck at it.
I get cramps in my legs in missionary position. I achieve orgasm long before he is ready to in just about any position, though I last longest in missionary position. He can't really seem to commute me because my penis is sort of bendy. I lack any and all refinement in my dominant technique - I'm still as quiet and passive as ever even though he's let me know that he'd prefer me to be more rough and dominant and vocal. And I basically have no idea what the hell I'm doing. I'd like to be better than that. Help?
Tactical, practical and technical suggestions favored over "you're overthinking this." I perceive that. I just realize I'm overthinking this because I have no cl
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Jack_Sarang1
When gay men travel out to a lock and looking to choose up, how do they work out the details?
I mean, if a male see’s another man he’d like to try and pick up, how does he figure out if that man is his “type”? I mean, how does a Top understand he’s trying to choose up a Bottom or vice versa?
Do they simply ask? Is there some kind of secret code or handshake?
AngelicGemma2
A bi male friend once told me when he’s in queer bars it goes love this for him -
- He spots a guy he likes
- Goes up to guy and they have little talk for 5 mins.
- My friend says “Wanna fuck?”
dctaz3
yes, there is a classified elaborate code that is exchanged in a not many glances and waves of the hands. you absorb it after you receive your toaster oven for converting 5 or more former hetros into the collective.
but seriously, it is all about actual human communication, pheremones, and sometimes jsut plain being disapointed in that once residence, he isn’t what you really expected. though a friend of mine insists that he can reveal alot about a guy by body language, and how he positons himself. I think it is all bs. and you can’t go by body type, because sometimes the smallest
You know what topping, bottoming (and even switching!) are now — and maybe you’re feeling super delighted to top (or to know more about the vocabulary for something you’ve already been doing for years). But there’s more to sex than knowing the right terminology. You know you want to top, but how execute you make sure you’re a good top?
Sex and romance are subjective, and every encounter with every person is a minute different; what makes the dreamiest, most mindblowing sex of one person’s existence might be a total snoozefest for someone else. While there may be no objective standards for “good sex,” I complete think there are some ground rules for what individual people can perform to be good in bed — and if you’re choosing sex with a power dynamic, here are some of the things you can undertake to work toward creature a good top.
Do your homework
One way to reflect about topping someone else during sex is to imagine you’re going on a road trip: as the top, you’ve volunteered to take on the task of doing (most of) the driving. That doesn’t mean you’re doing “all the work” — the person in the passenger seat is likely navigati
Tips for cis men who want to try sex with other cis men – in a protected and respectful way
To begin, I’d like to clarify that this article is not necessarily about questioning your sexuality. Everyone should be able to explore their curiosities in a pleasurable and positive way, and it’s important to know that you can experiment new things without subscribing to any fixed labels. These tips are for cis men who wish to try sex with other cis men, in a safe and respectful manner.
Note: ‘cisgender men’ or ‘cis men’ refers to men who were assigned male at birth, based on having a penis and other biological characteristics, and identify as men too.Cis is the other side of trans. We confer trans men morehere, andhere’s some support and tip about navigating sex and relationshipsfor trans men and trans masculine people.
1. Be honest from the get-go that you’re curious
Whether you want to hook up with someone you’re already acquainted with (usually a gym bro, according to most porn), or you’ve been involved in a charged emoji swap on Grindr, honesty is fundamental from the beginning. Many queer people are sympathetic
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