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Friends With Ambiguous Benefits
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Dear Prudence,
I had a really great crush on this guy back in eighth grade. He told me he was gay, and we’ve been best friends ever since. My parents understand he’s gay, so we don’t have to pursue rules I would normally have to follow if I had a guy over. He is really affectionate, and he likes to cuddle. Recently he has started kissing me, and he feels me up sometimes too. I asked him what was going on, and he said he was just curious. I thought it was weird that he would be curious about what a girl felt like if he was attracted to guys, but I didn’t say anything else.
One of the amazing things about the hottest club in any town these days is that gay people are welcome. But with acceptance comes responsibility, and over the years homosexual partiers, prefer a bunch of hard-drinking Emily Posts, have had to learn the ins-and-outs of how to respond in a mostly-straight environment without pissing anyone off. It’s a straight man’s world, we’re just livin’ in it.
Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for straight people when attending a gay watering hole with their same-sex-loving friends. We love having straight people hang out with us, we really do, but I’m going to break down the rules for the breeders who forget how to behave when there is a rainbow flag on the wall. For our purposes we’ll be talking about gay male bars, since lesbian bars, favor pandas in the feral and good female acoustic folk acts, are harder and harder to detect these days.
Your Vagina Has No Power Here
This is the most important lesson for all ladies to know before they step foot in a queer establishment (unless, of course, it is the fabled lesbian bar). Women are used to being let into clubs first, not having to pay a cover, served a
Gay men and other men who have sex with men
Abebe- an international trainee from Ethiopia, 24-year-old who identifies as male (he/him/they) and has been sexually active for the last five years. Abebe’s appointment is by telehealth. About three months ago, he started exploring his sexuality and has had sex with a few male partners (if asked for more detail – 4/5 partners, both insertive and receptive anal and oral sex, infrequent condom use). Abebe is feeling perplexed and uncertain about his sexuality and would never have felt comfortable exploring it further while living with his parents in Ethiopia. He is worried about anyone in his family finding out, particularly his father. Abebe has no significant medical history but has been feeling a little anxious lately. Abebe has never smoked cigarettes but has been experimenting with some recreational drugs since coming to Australia. He drinks alcohol with friends on weekends (4-5 drinks per occasion) and has tried some MDMA. These occasions are also when he started to experiment having sex with men. Harm reduction education is provided regarding drug use and linked into community organisation for ongoing support.
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